Unwelcome change - Are you ..yourself?

We must know what is most important in life. What we think of ourselves or what people think about us? Our battles, love, passion, principles and beliefs are unique. They are worth fighting for unless proven false or trivial. We earn respect, admiration based on what we do to achieve for these battles - How bravely we fight, How much we achieve? There is always a chance that we loose this battle, thats a part of the package. But remember only when u believe in these principals is this battle worth winning, or even worth fighting for.

People tend to forget this basic phenomenon called purpose of life and instead get entangled into what seems more attractive to the mind - "the admiration, the sonnets of glory". They start faking their glory, their achievents to the point that they actually loose interest in the core matter of what led them to this. They start thinking of lies about their achievements to impress people, because now they want to be mattered to the people. Initially, when they were fighting alone, their unique battles, they matterred to themselves, but not anymore.

Publicity and glory are very attractive indeed. What people think about our beliefs becomes more important. We tend to forget the actual purpose and start living for a different purpose "to be accepted by the public, the society". "I wanna become more sociable". We even sacrifice those who loved us for our stronger selves, who loved us for what we were - brave and unique. We get tired of fights and change to live a more attractive life, a life where people accept and admire us even when we fake our achievements, or admire us only when we fake our achievements.

We however, loose what matters most, the true satisfation of actual achievement, the glory of a well fought battle, the real taste of a win. We loose the respect of people who loved us for what we were - "unique". We fit in and gather the respect of many ... many who dont matter. After sometime, this respect is the only feeling of self appraisal left within us. We loose our identity to "fit in" and now their admiration of our faked persona is the only "identity" we remain with.

So before it is too late in the life, realize if you are still your unique self or one of those mature, compromising brutes who try to "fit in". If you find yourself in the latter category then without loosing time, make amends. Find your self.

Because, even if people around you dont find you praise worthy, if you hang on to your uniqueness, you will find yourself more contended (even if you loose) than when you change yourself to what "society" thinks is appropriate. You are atleast still yourself. If you achieve your purpose, what society think will not matter ...... U will get "self-respect", a feeling of existance not as a dummy playing along the tunes of others, but as an existant person, an entity in itself.

And you will realize that only the people who loved you for your uniqueness are the ones who really love you. And mostly, these people will loose respect for you once you become what society commands you to. Because that common, hackeneyed demeanor is hardly worth their love or respect.